Do not date him!

Posted on September 15th, 2008 by Richard Catto 7,251 views

Cape Town news brings you the latest South African blogging absurdity – Do Not Date Him! – powered by the Drupal content management system.

This pettiness, which is sure to be abused by vindictive heart broken South African women, is brought to you by Andries of Pangea Publishing and hosted by, wait for it, eFrog.org. Hahaha!!!

*ribbit*

2009-09-26 UPDATE: the donotdatehim.co.za site is no longer in existence

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39 Responses to “Do not date him!”

1. Rox Says:
   September 15th, 2008 at 21:46

   The US version, Don’t Date Him Girl has been around for many moons.

   It’s pretty lame, and I doubt I would ever use or consult such a hormonal source of ‘advice’, but it can be a good laugh.

   Roxs last blog post..Kafka on the Shore: Spellbinding!

2. Lyndi Says:
   September 15th, 2008 at 22:06

   I have to agree with Rox, most probably just another time waster but it could be fun (at least for a while).

3. buffy Says:
   September 16th, 2008 at 08:54

   I came across that site the other day and whilst it was kinda fun for awhile, I’m also inclined to think it could become quite vindictive. Perhaps not a site any male would want their name plastered all over (and I know there is no such thing as bad advertising but on that site you have to wonder!)

   buffys last blog post..Taking the cork out

4. fit4all Says:
   September 16th, 2008 at 20:27

   I’ll still love to date him!LOL…

   fit4alls last blog post..I WON..yEPpEey!!!

5. Tim Says:
   September 16th, 2008 at 23:11

   THis will be funny – until I appear on it LOL

6. Richard Catto Says:
   September 17th, 2008 at 20:06

   Well it seems the aforementioned site is down at the moment. I wonder if it is a temp problem or permanent?

   And this post has rode the SEO wave. Purely from organic searches, this post has shot up to the top of the pops on this blog!

7. zac Says:
   September 18th, 2008 at 09:38

   something tells me its gone, good riddance to bad rubbish, this can never make sense, its a one sided story for pete’s sake, would be better if she also posted her face and real name alongside the poor bastard she is trying to destroy.

8. Emm Says:
   September 21st, 2008 at 16:07

   I think that site is hilarious – I fully expect to see my own ex’s on there one day. I couldn’t care if it is vindictive – if you start worrying about a person and can see that others have had the same worries then I think that is great.
   Rich – you’re not the Rich Catto that came to my house once to pick up a kitten are you?

   Emms last blog post..Summer update

9. andie Says:
   September 22nd, 2008 at 10:55

   i totally dig this site, great stuff richard! name and shame the idiots.

10. The Fitness Diva Says:
    September 22nd, 2008 at 19:49

    This is a scream! Wish this had existed some years ago. I’d have a list of names to put on it!

    But, as time has passed, hopefully those guys I knew have all grown up a bit, yes?

    The Fitness Divas last blog post..Fall Fitness

11. Ha Ha Says:
    September 26th, 2008 at 20:23

    What Peter says about Paul, says more about Peter than Paul.

12. Rati Says:
    November 4th, 2008 at 15:09

    I missed the website. But I’m sure I would have had one name at least to put on there but I agree it should not be one sided coz there are some crrraaaazy chick out there!!!

13. Sparklingdancer Says:
    November 9th, 2008 at 20:36

    Stumbled by chance on THIS website, and tonight, did a search on some cheat me dated – and, will you believe?

    Found his name on the website under discussion. It feels good, and sad, to know, I wasnt his only “victim”.
    And I think it was a very brave women who went and listed him. Just one thing, she said he’s “good looking and well built”, not true. He’s ugly and average!!!!

14. Jasmine Crevald Says:
    November 15th, 2008 at 16:35

    dontdatehim.com is a very stupid, idiotic excuse for bad publicity
    it might seem to get back at the guy that was a prick or whatever, but it will create hectically bad vibes with those guys and thus create a stalker, psycho scneario

    besides donotdatehim.com is not offering 128 bit encryption so accessing the so-called database and location of the respective ip addresses is not difficult to work out

    i suggest donotdatehim.com website disappears before some really bad shite happens

15. Sparklingdancer Says:
    November 22nd, 2008 at 13:42

    Its the year 2008, not 1008. If there can be companies that verify the credit worthiness of a person, why not a website that verify the “dating-potential” of a man? Time waisted with a fraud and cheater is time lost. No need to go into details or be vindictive against the person, but if someone is a cheat, or cheated in the past, me personally would like to know, and be able to make an informed decision, BEFORE a relationship starts. And if bad stuff is going to happen if a man (the fraud and cheater) finds his name on a “verifying site”, whats that man doing out on the street anyway? Or should it be kept a secret and hush hush if a man is a cheater and fraud? And allow the fraud and cheater to continue in silence creating havoc?

16. Patti Says:
    March 16th, 2009 at 14:56

    It’s a pity Frank Johnson didn’t make it onto the list. Or maybe he did?

17. Pandora Says:
    May 3rd, 2009 at 15:37

    I think the site is good.guys like fezile cakwebe of gssc driving a white 5 series, treating women like dirt need to be exposed. Women need to know what they are getting into.

18. Kay Matthews Says:
    June 2nd, 2009 at 15:23

    Not true…Fez is a really nice guy Pandora !!!

19. Dizzy Says:
    June 6th, 2009 at 20:23

    This could help a few women avoid unnecessary heartbreak and STDs into the bargain!

20. Richard Catto Says:
    June 7th, 2009 at 00:07

    @dizzy: anyone who sleeps around will get STDs. This site will not help that. Only morals can help a person avoid STDs.

21. pretty Says:
    July 22nd, 2009 at 13:50

    I agree with sparkling dancer, i mean if we gonna do credit checks why not this. There are some real bone heads out there who think they can just go around messing with some gals lives and get away with it ( and they do) they just move on to the next one. these rats mst be exposed!!!
    obviously there is not need to tell us the whole shebang, just at pic & name will do…

22. Lerato Says:
    August 8th, 2009 at 22:07

    Kay Matthews: I agree with Pandora, Fezile Cakwebe is a dog. Have u dated him long enough? It’s women like who make it easy for these men to keep treating women like rubish. Fezile Cakwebe is nothing but a broke ,old liar who sleeps around. He appears friendly when he wants u. U can ask Pandora that, she found him on top of another woman.is that being a nice guy?

23. Fezile Cakwebe Says:
    August 18th, 2009 at 13:38

    Heavy …..Lerato chill !!!! go on with your life Pandora is engaged to me now.Did you know that?????Well I guess not ….give her a call made she will invite you to the wedding!!!!

24. Mintuse Says:
    August 26th, 2009 at 21:51

    Oh!! Hayi maan Lerato yintoni niba desperate so much. Fezile is her man and this incident you are referring to is of many moons ago. And let me share with everybody else who blogs on this site, the ‘Pandora’ who wrote these comments re Fezile is not the ‘real’ Pandora. It’s some sick, evil & devious woman, who was a rebound girlfriend – she is so bitter. I didn’t know that there were people who handle break-ups sooo badly, it’s actually scary. Let me tell you this, i’ve known the actual Pandora for more than 15 years – and what you have done on this site is soooo not her style … she is a woman who chooses her battles (very carefully) she would NEVER do this type of thing – NO matter what!! Women (Lerato & the ‘staged’ Pandora) get a life!!!

25. Mintuse Says:
    August 26th, 2009 at 21:53

    Oh, one more thing – the wedding is sooo on it’s not funny. Maybe we should hook-up and start with the planning …. it is going to be a very big one after ALL. Lol!

26. carry Says:
    August 31st, 2009 at 08:49

    @Mintushe-i think it’s women like you who encourages men to treat women like dirt. How do u encourage your friend to marry a man whom she saw shagging another woman?he’ll definitely do it again because she made it seem acceptable. I think that kind of woman must have a zero self-esteem. This site is to expose men like Fezile so that decent women can stay away from him, that way only the ones who have no self-confidence or self-esteem can date him. there are a lot of decent men out there who’ll treat u well.

27. pete Says:
    August 31st, 2009 at 09:09

    I think as a man, I’d rather a woman takes me to this stupid website than slash my tyres or run after me with a knife. Some women can go psycho on u when u dump then and u start sleeping wit one eye open-that sh#t is scary men.
    @Carry- I agree wit u. Women allow us guys to treat them bad,especially those ones who lacks self-confidence.I know my girlfriend will tell me to go jump if I treat her like shit,and I love and respect her for that!

28. Mintuse Says:
    August 31st, 2009 at 21:26

    @Carry – my dear, if this website was created to expose men who treat women like dirt, then ‘Pandora’ needs to go on another website. Not sure if you understood my comments, but I’ll fill you in on this. For the record, he was never caught shagging anyone & that is something that happened 5yrs ago & never again, since then. Moreover, how does one trust the judgement of a bitter, rebound ex-girlfriend who also just happened to be shagging Fezile’s late friend?? (May the poor man’s soul rest in peace). All couples go through shit in their relationships but it doesn’t mean that’s the end of it. As a couple, they’ve managed to sort things out and move on – maybe this fake Pandora can actually learn quite a lot from them …

29. Mintuse Says:
    August 31st, 2009 at 21:29

    If anything, one should blog something on ‘do not date her’ about this fake Pandora & warn men abt her – bloody psycho!!!

30. carry Says:
    September 1st, 2009 at 08:58

    @Mintushe- I think as women, we tend to blame other women for what goes on in the relation,forgeeting the role the men play in it. It’s a Pull Her Down syndrome of some sort. I think the only person who has an issue is not the ex, but the idiot who would still marry a man who obviously don’t rrspect her enough not to cheat. I admire the ex for being bold enought to stand up for her pride and self-worth. Now that’s a WOMAN!I also think if those the man has found someone stupid enough to marry him, then good!

31. Fezile Cakwebe Says:
    September 1st, 2009 at 09:39

    I love my fiancee very much and no amount of malice can destroy that…thanks God we are so much in love…….

32. merafe Says:
    September 1st, 2009 at 21:45

    This site is so entertaining. Is this the real do not date him site guy?If not, then someone better open one soon. Damn , can u imagine the stories that would come up, some guys will end up relocating y’all. This shit is bad publicity. I’m gonna be a good boy from now on.

33. venda boy Says:
    September 4th, 2009 at 11:47

    @Fezile Cakwebe-man congrats on your engagement. I heard the fiance is some psychotic girl whose father was a druglord. You’ve got guts man.nevertheless, big up to you , afterall, which decent woman would agree to marrying you after what you keep doing to these women?

34. Pandora Mabai Says:
    September 25th, 2009 at 12:59

    This is Pandora Mabai the real Pandora not this person who is pretending to be me.Its interesting that now we have a venda boy commenting and Fezile’s ex who is pretending to be me is also from Venda.1 thing I have learned in life is that if you play diirty and you don’t wanna be caught be smart and kill all evidence that will link anything to you.I always gave “pandora”credit but damn girl you are so stupid.I won’t go on explaining what happened years ago but 1 thing I know I never caught my man Fezile Ckwebe shagging any girl.Pls “pandora”get your facts stright.Its really sad that a bitter woman will go this far and pretend to be these different people here.I know Fezile Cakwebe is a good man and you did not know what you had until it was gone.Girl let it go now and move on I am getting married to him and that won’t change.The are people out there who have serious problems guys and this site is for them not this nonsense.I’ve been veru quiet for some time now enough is enough.You really need help girl please get help cos you have just proven to me in so many ways that you are sick.I love Fezile Cakwebe and we will get married nothing will break us.Not even this cos for me shame maan I’m even running out of words for you “Pandora” “Lerato” Carry” “Venda Boy” you have so many names

35. Pandora Mabai Says:
    September 25th, 2009 at 13:05

    You are good at creating stories I must say my father was never a druglord I wish he was maybe I would be very rich now in my life.Fezil e has guts cos he knows he has a descent woman not a psychotic girl like you.You were his rebound ex-girlfriend pls understand that and he went back to his woman that will be me dear. Get help and maybe you will find yourself a man I wish you all the best in your JOURNEY…

36. Pandora Mabai Says:
    September 25th, 2009 at 13:19

    You good at creating stories I wonder what are you doing in insurance?Not sure but yah think about it you create interesting stories and they will sell like hot cakes in the media believe me.You should really consider doing this full time job cos I know insurance does not pay and you still take time from work to write these interesting stories.I’m sure people who are registered on this site are finding this story very interesting.Your story is so entertaining I’m sure eveyone wants to see what is the next comment on this.You van make a lot of money out of your creativity instead of a consultant with some insurance company wasting your time.I know insurance I once worked there when I 1st got to Jozi 4 years back before I became self employed that is.

37. Pandora Mabai Says:
    September 25th, 2009 at 14:01

    Please leave us alone

38. Richard Catto Says:
    September 26th, 2009 at 18:03

    The donotdatehim.co.za web site is now offline. I think it’s gone for good.

39. Richard Catto Says:
    December 29th, 2009 at 17:59

    All you morons still writing kak comments on this thread:

    GO FUCK YOURSELVES.

    Comments are closed now, dickheads.